@matthiasjbarkerMatthias J Barker

For estranged parents & adult children Psychotherapist Free workshop ⬇️

card updated Oct 17, 2026 · 10 clips parsed · following 639 · 48,600,000 likes total

Engagement5.31%normal range

Account summary

@matthiasjbarker has 2,800,000 followers and 756 videos. Across the 10 parsed clips the average is 3,708 views and 178 likes. Engagement to views is 5.31%, which is normal range for TikTok. On the newer half of the feed the response is rising (+0.35 pp). Posts roughly 7.8 times a week.

Followers

2.8M

+0 in period

Engagement

5.31%

+0.35 pp newer half

Average views

3.7K

median 3.6K

Likes per clip

178

10 comments avg

Shares / saves

10 / 27

0.72% of viewers save

Posting rate

7.8 / wk

Latest clips

10 collected

You can't make mom happy about a boundary. The goal is she knows why y — @matthiasjbarker

3.9K1:34You can't make mom happy about a boundary. The goal is she knows why you pulled back if it comes to that. #estrangement 27283131

When your mom gives unsolicited advice and you push back, you often ge — @matthiasjbarker

5.1K0:49When your mom gives unsolicited advice and you push back, you often get more advice. She defends why you need to hear it262231634

There's a format for reaching out that actually works. It owns your pa — @matthiasjbarker

7.9K0:35There's a format for reaching out that actually works. It owns your part without groveling, tells the truth with tact, a353291294

The key phrase, "I want you to have a warm relationship with them, but — @matthiasjbarker

2.4K0:44The key phrase, "I want you to have a warm relationship with them, but we need agreement first." Softens the boundary wi973215

The nuclear family setup makes estrangement more likely. Here's why. # — @matthiasjbarker

1.8K1:08The nuclear family setup makes estrangement more likely. Here's why. #estrangement #familyrift #nocontact41002

Your parent is only your parent in the capacity that they actually par — @matthiasjbarker

2.6K0:54Your parent is only your parent in the capacity that they actually parent you. #estrangement #nocontact #cutoff77315

Cutting contact before you've healed the past keeps you stuck in the o — @matthiasjbarker

4.5K0:30Cutting contact before you've healed the past keeps you stuck in the old pattern. #estrangement #nocontact #cutoff268171636

What if you saw your child not as your enemy, but as your mirror, woul — @matthiasjbarker

3.3K1:28What if you saw your child not as your enemy, but as your mirror, would that change what you're willing to look at? Most16361533

You know your sister. You know your niece. So when your niece cuts off — @matthiasjbarker

4K1:13You know your sister. You know your niece. So when your niece cuts off from your sister, it feels obvious who's in the w2037215

Identity used to be who you were in your family, your village, your ro — @matthiasjbarker

1.7K0:49Identity used to be who you were in your family, your village, your role. Now it's who you are inside your own head — an40101

Engagement per clip

10 parsed clips · newest on the right · click a bar to open the clip peak: 8.0% ER

Aug 23Aug 28Sep 1

Date	Views	Likes	Comments	Shares	Saves	ER
Sep 1, 2026	3,880	272	8	31	31	8.02%
Aug 31, 2026	5,080	262	23	16	34	5.93%
Aug 30, 2026	7,858	353	29	12	94	5.01%
Aug 29, 2026	2,437	97	3	2	15	4.19%
Aug 28, 2026	1,802	41	0	0	2	2.28%
Aug 27, 2026	2,584	77	3	1	5	3.13%
Aug 26, 2026	4,501	268	17	16	36	6.69%
Aug 25, 2026	3,318	163	6	15	33	5.55%
Aug 24, 2026	3,963	203	7	2	15	5.35%
Aug 23, 2026	1,662	40	1	0	1	2.47%