@reframerelationshipsHeather Hetchler Coaching

Helping women who are done feeling done. Quiet quitting ➡️ Joy Marriage, Money, Midlife Resources ⬇️ I Author I Certified Coach

card updated Sep 24, 2026 · 13 of 23 clips with full stats · following 10 · 104,200 likes total

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Engagement3.86%normal range

Account summary

@reframerelationships has 29,400 followers and 383 videos. Across the 23 parsed clips the average is 53,587 views and 2,912 likes. Engagement to views is 3.86%, which is normal range for TikTok. On the newer half of the feed the response is holding steady (−0.23 pp). Posts roughly 0.4 times a week. An average clip reaches 182% of the follower count.

Followers

29.4K

+2.4K in period

Engagement

3.86%

−0.23 pp newer half

Average views

53.6K

median 2K

Likes per clip

2.9K

120 comments avg

Shares / saves

277 / 1.2K

1.44% of viewers save

Posting rate

0.4 / wk

reach 182% of followers

Latest clips

23 collected

After a conflict, do you find yourself asking “Is he gonna be upset wi — @reframerelationships

2K2:54After a conflict, do you find yourself asking “Is he gonna be upset with me?” or are you checking in with yourself to as955623

Replying to @Sehun Yes! stop defending yourself when your husband turn — @reframerelationships

1.2K2:35Replying to @Sehun Yes! stop defending yourself when your husband turns a conversation on you. Repeat what you said, a434115

You’re not done with your marriage. You’re done feeling like this in y — @reframerelationships

1.2K3:25You’re not done with your marriage. You’re done feeling like this in your marriage. Done overthinking every conversation387314

What do you believe will happen if you don’t reassure your husband whe — @reframerelationships

12.2K3:30What do you believe will happen if you don’t reassure your husband when he starts criticizing himself and says I guess I3202324137

When you share a hurt with your husband, does he turn the conversation — @reframerelationships

3.7K3:23When you share a hurt with your husband, does he turn the conversation back on you? Does he tell you he was only joking145191039

Are you ready to stop over explaining yourself? Would you like to have — @reframerelationships

2K2:33Are you ready to stop over explaining yourself? Would you like to have a conversation with your husband where you share607313

Being mean is never a sign of love. Ready to unpack this story? Were y — @reframerelationships

1.7K2:50Being mean is never a sign of love. Ready to unpack this story? Were you told this as a little girl that if a boy at sc1195617

What is one thing you’d like to change about your marriage? #marriagem — @reframerelationships

2.5K2:22What is one thing you’d like to change about your marriage? #marriagemindset #donefeelingdone #reframingmindset 7917518

Is there a pattern of frustration between you and your spouse? Are you — @reframerelationships

3.4K3:10Is there a pattern of frustration between you and your spouse? Are you willing to stop over explaining yourself and sta839412

Replying to @lilacninja pausing is powerful. You are breaking the dyna — @reframerelationships

1.3K3:44Replying to @lilacninja pausing is powerful. You are breaking the dynamic…. You are going to feel a change immediately. 50917

Try this simple phrase to stop defending or over explaining…. #marriag — @reframerelationships

340.5K1:43Try this simple phrase to stop defending or over explaining…. #marriagemindset #reframingmindset #donefeelingdone 7.4K2325333.4K

You are not alone! His behavior is data. It does not define who you ar — @reframerelationships

418.1K4:49You are not alone! His behavior is data. It does not define who you are. Are you ready for change? #MindsetMatters #marr15.1K4581.4K7.2K

Stop trying to change your husband and start changing how you respond — @reframerelationships

323.4K4:38Stop trying to change your husband and start changing how you respond to him! #reframingthoughts #MindsetMatters #Strong14.3K7611.7K5.1K

What if your husband never changes? Does that mean you never get to fe — @reframerelationships

83.1KWhat if your husband never changes? Does that mean you never get to feel joy again? You can love your husband. You can w0000

You keep saying, “I’m done.” But here’s what I want you to consider… A — @reframerelationships

2KYou keep saying, “I’m done.” But here’s what I want you to consider… Are you really done with your marriage? Or are you 0000

Replying to @nancyztimju Someone asked me, “What do you mean by THIS?” — @reframerelationships

26.8KReplying to @nancyztimju Someone asked me, “What do you mean by THIS?” Here’s my answer… YOU get to fill in the blank. M0000

It’s going to get uncomfortable before it gets better. And that’s not — @reframerelationships

1.5KIt’s going to get uncomfortable before it gets better. And that’s not necessarily a bad thing. When you stop overexplain0000

One of the most exhausting things in marriage is having to defend your — @reframerelationships

1.8KOne of the most exhausting things in marriage is having to defend your feelings to the very person who hurt them. You ex0000

Replying to @shelltits His rage is NOT your responsibility. Your respo — @reframerelationships

712Replying to @shelltits His rage is NOT your responsibility. Your response IS. Just because your husband invites you into0000

“Why can’t she just ask him nicely?” What makes you think she hasn’t? — @reframerelationships

1.2K“Why can’t she just ask him nicely?” What makes you think she hasn’t? What makes you think she hasn’t asked calmly, kind0000

Asking someone to move on when there’s no apology or recognition of wr — @reframerelationships

552Asking someone to move on when there’s no apology or recognition of wrong behavior is only asking the other person to pr0000

Somewhere between being a wife, a mom, a caretaker, and the woman ever — @reframerelationships

598Somewhere between being a wife, a mom, a caretaker, and the woman everyone depends on, you stopped including yourself in0000

Somewhere along the way, you became so focused on being a good wife th — @reframerelationships

898Somewhere along the way, you became so focused on being a good wife that you forgot you were a person, too. You learned 0000

Engagement per clip

13 parsed clips · newest on the right · click a bar to open the clip peak: 7.7% ER

Feb 19Sep 14Sep 22

Date	Views	Likes	Comments	Shares	Saves	ER
Sep 22, 2026	2,001	95	5	6	23	5.30%
Sep 22, 2026	1,186	43	4	1	15	4.05%
Sep 21, 2026	1,205	38	7	3	14	3.98%
Sep 16, 2026	12,200	320	23	24	137	3.01%
Sep 15, 2026	3,744	145	19	10	39	4.65%
Sep 14, 2026	2,006	60	7	3	13	3.49%
Sep 14, 2026	1,696	119	5	6	17	7.67%
Sep 11, 2026	2,479	79	17	5	18	4.07%
Sep 10, 2026	3,425	83	9	4	12	2.80%
Sep 9, 2026	1,295	50	9	1	7	4.63%
Aug 12, 2026	340,500	7,426	232	533	3,408	2.41%
May 28, 2026	418,100	15,100	458	1,352	7,246	4.04%
Feb 19, 2026	323,400	14,300	761	1,658	5,080	5.17%