@dancingfordesireAndrea Lystrup, LMFT

A (not your) marriage counselor sparking conversations around trauma, neurodivergence, and intimacy. Not accepting new clients.

card updated Oct 20, 2026 · 12 clips parsed · following 1,812 · 774,700 likes total

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Engagement7.01%normal range

Account summary

@dancingfordesire has 96,300 followers and 372 videos. Across the 12 parsed clips the average is 668,272 views and 45,297 likes. Engagement to views is 7.01%, which is normal range for TikTok. On the newer half of the feed the response is falling (−3.0 pp). Posts roughly 0.1 times a week. An average clip reaches 694% of the follower count.

Followers

96.3K

−100 in period

Engagement

7.01%

−3.0 pp newer half

Average views

668.3K

median 773

Likes per clip

45.3K

196 comments avg

Shares / saves

1.3K / 5K

0.75% of viewers save

Posting rate

0.1 / wk

reach 694% of followers

Latest clips

12 collected

The happiest women I’ve known in a marriage are either explicit about — @dancingfordesire

13.3K2:06The happiest women I’ve known in a marriage are either explicit about the transactions happening in their relationship,305182598

What have been you go-to dopamine sources after obliterating whatever — @dancingfordesire

6882:42What have been you go-to dopamine sources after obliterating whatever fuels your younger years? For me I’m leaning a lot621469

When the same fights keep circling down the drain only to come back up — @dancingfordesire

7862:11When the same fights keep circling down the drain only to come back up again as predictively as the water cycle, often w785624

Lil Jon can be my therapist any day. #therapy #therapists #millenialth — @dancingfordesire

3920:29Lil Jon can be my therapist any day. #therapy #therapists #millenialtherapist 21513

Replying to @RobinExtraOrdinary When you have a lot of empathy for a p — @dancingfordesire

7602:59Replying to @RobinExtraOrdinary When you have a lot of empathy for a partner who emotionally shuts down, making accommod6211420

Cue the midlife Google searches about the link between perimenopause, — @dancingfordesire

1.3K1:05Cue the midlife Google searches about the link between perimenopause, ADHD, career burnout, and your spouse driving you 598314

We make decisions every day to choose the life we have. We created the — @dancingfordesire

2682:16We make decisions every day to choose the life we have. We created the life we have because we’re solving for insecuriti12011

When you’ve created a “good” life through hyper performance, the midli — @dancingfordesire

2810:48When you’ve created a “good” life through hyper performance, the midlife crisis burnout is scary. You intuitively know y11201

Dosing out so much dopamine for my neurodivergent couples today! Any e — @dancingfordesire

3050:47Dosing out so much dopamine for my neurodivergent couples today! Any enneagram 8’s in the house or lucky enough to have 14202

As a therapist in my unhealing era, I’m putting the parenting books, m — @dancingfordesire

1.2K0:54As a therapist in my unhealing era, I’m putting the parenting books, models, and anxiety about doing it right aside. I’m1421196

Your relationship is unique, and yet it’s just like everyone else’s. C — @dancingfordesire

2.3M0:59Your relationship is unique, and yet it’s just like everyone else’s. Communication skills aren’t nearly as important as 246.9K8578.9K36K

There’s no shame in this though. Literally everyone has set up some so — @dancingfordesire

5.7M0:58There’s no shame in this though. Literally everyone has set up some sort of problematic patterns, they just don’t know i295.9K1.4K7.1K23.8K

Engagement per clip

12 parsed clips · newest on the right · click a bar to open the clip peak: 13.8% ER

Aug 20Aug 20Oct 19

Date	Views	Likes	Comments	Shares	Saves	ER
Oct 19, 2026	13,300	305	18	25	98	2.62%
Aug 27, 2026	688	62	14	6	9	11.92%
Aug 26, 2026	786	78	5	6	24	11.32%
Aug 22, 2026	392	21	5	1	3	6.89%
Aug 21, 2026	760	62	1	14	20	10.13%
Aug 20, 2026	1,316	59	8	3	14	5.32%
Aug 19, 2026	268	12	0	1	1	4.85%
Aug 18, 2026	281	11	2	0	1	4.63%
Aug 13, 2026	305	14	2	0	2	5.25%
Aug 12, 2026	1,170	142	11	9	6	13.85%
Sep 29, 2022	2,300,000	246,900	857	8,938	35,984	11.16%
Aug 20, 2022	5,700,000	295,900	1,431	7,124	23,778	5.34%