@the_control_codeThe Control Code

Lindsay Stoker | Author | The Control Code™ Sentence-level framework for detecting coercive control. Relentless, five-alarm bitch about violence against women.

card updated Sep 26, 2026 · 13 clips parsed · following 298 · 2,600,000 likes total

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Engagement15.42%above average

Account summary

@the_control_code has 107,600 followers and 195 videos. Across the 13 parsed clips the average is 601,378 views and 82,045 likes. Engagement to views is 15.42%, which is above average for TikTok. On the newer half of the feed the response is falling (−3.92 pp). Posts roughly 0.6 times a week. An average clip reaches 559% of the follower count.

Followers

107.6K

history is still being collected

Engagement

15.42%

−3.92 pp newer half

Average views

601.4K

median 3.3K

Likes per clip

82K

574 comments avg

Shares / saves

10.1K / 14.4K

2.39% of viewers save

Posting rate

0.6 / wk

reach 559% of followers

Latest clips

13 collected

If you’re the woman at home being told you’re paranoid: “I can’t prove — @the_control_code

1.4K2:58If you’re the woman at home being told you’re paranoid: “I can’t prove it yet” and “I’m imagining it” are not the same s14914513

You cannot spend your life demanding freedom from government interfere — @the_control_code

1.6K3:28You cannot spend your life demanding freedom from government interference for yourself and then decide freedom is negoti15913519

“I want to be able to lose everything.” A woman said that about her ma — @the_control_code

3.3K2:59“I want to be able to lose everything.” A woman said that about her marriage and called it beautiful. 137 women and girl459501048

Every inch I gave up to keep the peace went straight to him, and that — @the_control_code

2.8KEvery inch I gave up to keep the peace went straight to him, and that very giving set the precedent for the next inch. B240101061

Taking away the vote takes away the exits, and the exits are the inter — @the_control_code

2KTaking away the vote takes away the exits, and the exits are the intervention. 91% of family annihilators are men. When 1786326

Sending love to my biggest fans 😘 #thecontrolcode #coercivecontrol #Ca — @the_control_code

1.8K0:09Sending love to my biggest fans 😘 #thecontrolcode #coercivecontrol #CardiB 168626

Ninety-one percent of family annihilators are men. Seven in ten had al — @the_control_code

1.4K2:57Ninety-one percent of family annihilators are men. Seven in ten had already been violent with her. One in four fathers w13062017

They’re using Lindsay Clancy to say “women are crazy.” So I pulled the — @the_control_code

96.6K2:07They’re using Lindsay Clancy to say “women are crazy.” So I pulled the dates. While her jury sat — July 24, Aug 11, Aug 18.5K7881.7K2.5K

They watched their dad get away with it. She took it quietly. They cal — @the_control_code

6.5K2:37They watched their dad get away with it. She took it quietly. They called that loyalty. Then they tried it on a woman bo1.2K6429141

The data: UK Domestic Abuse Commissioner (Jan 2026): suspected suicide — @the_control_code

26.4K2:48The data: UK Domestic Abuse Commissioner (Jan 2026): suspected suicides linked to domestic abuse now outnumber intimate 4.2K2803101.1K

Replying to @Hys145 This is what coercive control looks like in practi — @the_control_code

174.1K4:32Replying to @Hys145 This is what coercive control looks like in practice. One sentence is breakable. “You’re being dram21.8K5325.1K7.1K

What can a bunch of incarcerated men who murdered their wives tell us — @the_control_code

5.9M2:30What can a bunch of incarcerated men who murdered their wives tell us about lethality in relationships? Turns out — almo811.1K4.1K114.7K145.6K

Gabby was told to “calm down” before she could get back in the car. Th — @the_control_code

1.6M2:45Gabby was told to “calm down” before she could get back in the car. That’s not de-escalation. That’s access made conditi208.3K1.6K9.4K30.1K

Engagement per clip

13 parsed clips · newest on the right · click a bar to open the clip peak: 21.8% ER

Apr 13Sep 9Sep 25

Date	Views	Likes	Comments	Shares	Saves	ER
Sep 25, 2026	1,441	149	14	5	13	11.66%
Sep 23, 2026	1,551	159	13	5	19	11.41%
Sep 22, 2026	3,326	459	50	10	48	15.60%
Sep 11, 2026	2,818	240	10	10	61	9.23%
Sep 10, 2026	2,021	178	6	3	26	9.25%
Sep 9, 2026	1,779	168	6	2	6	9.89%
Sep 9, 2026	1,359	130	6	20	17	11.48%
Sep 8, 2026	96,600	18,500	788	1,727	2,476	21.75%
Sep 7, 2026	6,519	1,215	64	29	141	20.06%
Sep 6, 2026	26,400	4,183	280	310	1,065	18.08%
Apr 28, 2026	174,100	21,800	532	5,108	7,091	15.76%
Apr 27, 2026	5,900,000	811,100	4,069	114,700	145,649	15.76%
Apr 13, 2026	1,600,000	208,300	1,629	9,366	30,056	13.71%