@stevening_mftSteven Ing, MFT

35+ years of working with men to change abusive behaviors, overcome loneliness & build equal relationships AKA The Bald Feminist

card updated Oct 15, 2026 · 23 clips parsed · following 24 · 282,300 likes total

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Engagement14.81%above average

Account summary

@stevening_mft has 15,200 followers and 557 videos. Across the 23 parsed clips the average is 47,368 views and 6,754 likes. Engagement to views is 14.81%, which is above average for TikTok. On the newer half of the feed the response is falling (−7.51 pp). Posts roughly 0.6 times a week. An average clip reaches 312% of the follower count.

Followers

15.2K

+2.9K in period

Engagement

14.81%

−7.51 pp newer half

Average views

47.4K

median 874

Likes per clip

6.8K

95 comments avg

Shares / saves

166 / 745

1.57% of viewers save

Posting rate

0.6 / wk

reach 312% of followers

Latest clips

23 collected

What kind of life do you want to build? Choosing to move away from fea — @stevening_mft

6311:31What kind of life do you want to build? Choosing to move away from fear and harmful patterns starts with recognizing wha29204

Are you dating the person in front of you, or the person you hope they — @stevening_mft

5871:10Are you dating the person in front of you, or the person you hope they'll become? It's important to recognize the differ392010

When someone you love is struggling with family, they may not need you — @stevening_mft

6841:29When someone you love is struggling with family, they may not need you to fix the problem. They may just need you to lis25103

If your partner walks on eggshells around you, it's worth asking why. — @stevening_mft

1.6K1:20If your partner walks on eggshells around you, it's worth asking why. Expressing your feelings shouldn't come at the exp1194820

Knowing how to recognize harmful behavior is one thing. Knowing how to — @stevening_mft

7990:09Knowing how to recognize harmful behavior is one thing. Knowing how to speak up is another. Having clarity about both ca30002

Think people are calling everything harmful these days? Consider that — @stevening_mft

1.8K1:51Think people are calling everything harmful these days? Consider that honest feedback may be an opportunity to grow. The1744520

When we're afraid, we may reach for unhealthy ways to respond. Learnin — @stevening_mft

5950:49When we're afraid, we may reach for unhealthy ways to respond. Learning to manage our fear allows us to set boundaries w29202

A relationship isn't a supervisor and an employee. Even when one partn — @stevening_mft

1.2K0:36A relationship isn't a supervisor and an employee. Even when one partner earns more money, both people deserve a voice i823421

Culture changes when we stop treating harmful behavior as normal. Call — @stevening_mft

6220:32Culture changes when we stop treating harmful behavior as normal. Calling it out, talking about it openly, and setting b44205

You cannot control how others behave, but you can choose the standards — @stevening_mft

2.3K0:41You cannot control how others behave, but you can choose the standards you accept in your relationships. Protect your pe17515832

Most harmful behavior in relationships is not born from a desire to hu — @stevening_mft

1.6K1:12Most harmful behavior in relationships is not born from a desire to hurt someone. It often comes from shame, confusion, 8716513

He's never really harmful can sometimes become a way of minimizing beh — @stevening_mft

8750:55He's never really harmful can sometimes become a way of minimizing behavior that repeatedly creates fear. Paying attenti401613

The past may not be in your control, but your choices today can shape — @stevening_mft

7570:24The past may not be in your control, but your choices today can shape the relationship and life you want to have. You al41229

Many people believe a relationship will solve loneliness, but no one p — @stevening_mft

1.9K2:39Many people believe a relationship will solve loneliness, but no one person can meet every emotional need. Strong friend1348818

Real change can begin when we stop blaming the other person and start — @stevening_mft

5221:17Real change can begin when we stop blaming the other person and start recognizing the pattern. Intense anger and destruc24023

Healthy relationships start with the lessons boys learn growing up. Gi — @stevening_mft

4651:32Healthy relationships start with the lessons boys learn growing up. Giving them space to express emotions and communicat29125

He didn't hurt me doesn't mean the behavior should be dismissed. When — @stevening_mft

1.1K1:09He didn't hurt me doesn't mean the behavior should be dismissed. When anger turns into intimidation or damaging someone'841217

Healing takes time, and lasting change rarely happens overnight. The g — @stevening_mft

5062:23Healing takes time, and lasting change rarely happens overnight. The goal isn't a quick breakthrough. It's building heal47136

Sometimes the first step is simply realizing that you have choices. Cr — @stevening_mft

6220:34Sometimes the first step is simply realizing that you have choices. Creating a plan and changing your life may take time23113

Lasting change begins with accountability. Own your behavior, apologiz — @stevening_mft

8740:55Lasting change begins with accountability. Own your behavior, apologize sincerely, and choose a better path every day. H651520

When angry clients blame everyone else, I ask: "Why would anyone want — @stevening_mft

170.4K2:58When angry clients blame everyone else, I ask: "Why would anyone want to share your life?" That silence is powerful. The18.9K5665422.5K

When people feel powerless, they often blame others instead of naming — @stevening_mft

814K2:58When people feel powerless, they often blame others instead of naming what they truly need. Growth starts by owning the 133.5K1.5K3.1K14.2K

What if you marry someone who later realizes they don't like you? That — @stevening_mft

85.1K0:29What if you marry someone who later realizes they don't like you? That's not dysfunction—it's normal. Sometimes what see1.6K10964257

Engagement per clip

23 parsed clips · newest on the right · click a bar to open the clip peak: 17.0% ER

Jan 23Oct 14Oct 31

Date	Views	Likes	Comments	Shares	Saves	ER
Oct 31, 2026	631	29	2	0	4	4.91%
Oct 30, 2026	587	39	2	0	10	6.98%
Oct 30, 2026	684	25	1	0	3	3.80%
Oct 29, 2026	1,637	119	4	8	20	8.00%
Oct 29, 2026	799	30	0	0	2	3.75%
Oct 28, 2026	1,767	174	4	5	20	10.36%
Oct 28, 2026	595	29	2	0	2	5.21%
Oct 27, 2026	1,164	82	3	4	21	7.65%
Oct 27, 2026	622	44	2	0	5	7.40%
Oct 26, 2026	2,328	175	15	8	32	8.51%
Oct 15, 2026	1,567	87	16	5	13	6.89%
Oct 14, 2026	875	40	1	6	13	5.37%
Oct 14, 2026	757	41	2	2	9	5.94%
Oct 13, 2026	1,855	134	8	8	18	8.09%
Oct 13, 2026	522	24	0	2	3	4.98%
Oct 12, 2026	465	29	1	2	5	6.88%
Oct 11, 2026	1,106	84	1	2	17	7.87%
Oct 11, 2026	506	47	1	3	6	10.08%
Oct 11, 2026	622	23	1	1	3	4.02%
Oct 10, 2026	874	65	1	5	20	8.12%
Feb 8, 2026	170,400	18,900	566	542	2,486	11.74%
Feb 7, 2026	814,000	133,500	1,453	3,146	14,170	16.97%
Jan 23, 2026	85,100	1,613	109	64	257	2.10%