@realbenjaminsedaBenjamin | Dating Consultant

📹 1M+ subs on YT ⬇️ How to approach & attract any girl, anytime.

card updated Oct 3, 2026 · 23 clips parsed · following 161 · 6,600,000 likes total

Engagement7.7%normal range

Account summary

@realbenjaminseda has 407,300 followers and 1,745 videos. Across the 23 parsed clips the average is 698,695 views and 52,024 likes. Engagement to views is 7.7%, which is normal range for TikTok. On the newer half of the feed the response is falling (−5.52 pp). Posts roughly 0.1 times a week. An average clip reaches 172% of the follower count.

Followers

407.3K

−300 in period

Engagement

7.7%

−5.52 pp newer half

Average views

698.7K

median 1.4K

Likes per clip

52K

208 comments avg

Shares / saves

1.5K / 11K

1.58% of viewers save

Posting rate

0.1 / wk

reach 172% of followers

Latest clips

23 collected

Swiping more, reinstalling the app, or paying for premium will not fix — @realbenjaminseda

4090:47Swiping more, reinstalling the app, or paying for premium will not fix poor dating app results. The algorithm simply ref12012

You might be charismatic, sharp, and significantly better looking in p — @realbenjaminseda

3240:50You might be charismatic, sharp, and significantly better looking in person, but Hinge only evaluates what comes through10002

When was the last time a guy approached you? #approach #coldapproach # — @realbenjaminseda

39.9K0:42When was the last time a guy approached you? #approach #coldapproach #datingapps #datingadviceformen795522121

Why do women not text back? #approach #coldapproach #datingapps #datin — @realbenjaminseda

1.9K0:41Why do women not text back? #approach #coldapproach #datingapps #datingadviceformen711414

Why do women like older men? #approach #coldapproach #datingapps #dati — @realbenjaminseda

1.6K0:43Why do women like older men? #approach #coldapproach #datingapps #datingadviceformen71153

Do you prefer meeting people in person or on dating apps? #approach #c — @realbenjaminseda

1.6K0:59Do you prefer meeting people in person or on dating apps? #approach #coldapproach #datingapps #datingadviceformen55109

Should a guy send an Uber for a first date? #approach #coldapproach #d — @realbenjaminseda

2.2K0:46Should a guy send an Uber for a first date? #approach #coldapproach #datingapps #datingadviceformen66025

Should you split the check on a first date? #approach #coldapproach #d — @realbenjaminseda

1.4K0:59Should you split the check on a first date? #approach #coldapproach #datingapps #datingadviceformen37201

If a girl's looking at you, what does that mean? #approach #coldapproa — @realbenjaminseda

2K0:54If a girl's looking at you, what does that mean? #approach #coldapproach #datingapps #datingadviceformen754220

How old is too old? #approach #coldapproach #datingapps #datingadvicef — @realbenjaminseda

10.1K0:54How old is too old? #approach #coldapproach #datingapps #datingadviceformen9112214

You can spend tens of thousands of dollars on high-end matchmakers and — @realbenjaminseda

7970:44You can spend tens of thousands of dollars on high-end matchmakers and still end up on bad dates. Outsourcing your datin21101

Money might get you on her calendar, but a date still dies if she gets — @realbenjaminseda

8850:40Money might get you on her calendar, but a date still dies if she gets bored. When a woman already meets successful guys44003

Severe approach anxiety makes saying a simple hello feel impossible. I — @realbenjaminseda

2000:36Severe approach anxiety makes saying a simple hello feel impossible. If you put in the work, your comfort and skill leve4001

Starting a conversation with a woman you find attractive can feel para — @realbenjaminseda

1.1K0:36Starting a conversation with a woman you find attractive can feel paralyzing when you have zero practice. Putting in the32016

Hiring a service to fix your dating life never solves the underlying s — @realbenjaminseda

3760:34Hiring a service to fix your dating life never solves the underlying skill gap. Once the duration ends, you are back on 8000

Outsourcing your dating life leaves you with the exact same skill defi — @realbenjaminseda

9520:34Outsourcing your dating life leaves you with the exact same skill deficit once the service ends. Real confidence comes f18004

Failing on dates is normal, but failing without feedback keeps you stu — @realbenjaminseda

1.4K0:34Failing on dates is normal, but failing without feedback keeps you stuck. If you fail without getting feedback, you end 58108

Swiping on apps all day and getting zero matches makes it easy to feel — @realbenjaminseda

8810:36Swiping on apps all day and getting zero matches makes it easy to feel stuck and make excuses. Meeting women in real lif38124

Most guys talk themselves out of taking action before they even try. Y — @realbenjaminseda

7760:31Most guys talk themselves out of taking action before they even try. You see an opportunity, hesitate, and let assumptio24001

Relying on a single dating channel leaves meeting quality women comple — @realbenjaminseda

1.2K0:23Relying on a single dating channel leaves meeting quality women completely up to chance. Real consistency comes from com240111

DM me “free course” on IG @iambasedzeus for my guide to 2-3 dates per — @realbenjaminseda

8.1M0:40DM me “free course” on IG @iambasedzeus for my guide to 2-3 dates per week565.6K2.3K14.9K136K

5.1M0:49DM me “free course” on IG @iambasedzeus for my guide to 2-3 dates per week280.9K5585.9K74.2K

The reason most guys suck at texting. IG @iambasedzeus #basedzeus #bas — @realbenjaminseda

2.8M0:36The reason most guys suck at texting. IG @iambasedzeus #basedzeus #basedbenji #dating #highvalue #highstatus #texting #348.5K1.9K14.5K43.2K

Engagement per clip

23 parsed clips · newest on the right · click a bar to open the clip peak: 13.0% ER

Feb 21Sep 24Oct 30

Date	Views	Likes	Comments	Shares	Saves	ER
Oct 30, 2026	409	12	0	1	2	3.18%
Oct 30, 2026	324	10	0	0	2	3.09%
Oct 23, 2026	39,900	795	5	22	121	2.06%
Oct 22, 2026	1,871	71	1	4	14	4.06%
Oct 21, 2026	1,606	71	1	5	3	4.79%
Oct 20, 2026	1,647	55	1	0	9	3.40%
Oct 19, 2026	2,159	66	0	2	5	3.15%
Oct 18, 2026	1,384	37	2	0	1	2.82%
Oct 17, 2026	1,957	75	4	2	20	4.14%
Oct 17, 2026	10,100	91	12	2	14	1.04%
Sep 25, 2026	797	21	1	0	1	2.76%
Sep 24, 2026	885	44	0	0	3	4.97%
Sep 23, 2026	200	4	0	0	1	2.00%
Sep 22, 2026	1,133	32	0	1	6	2.91%
Sep 21, 2026	376	8	0	0	0	2.13%
Sep 20, 2026	952	18	0	0	4	1.89%
Sep 19, 2026	1,434	58	1	0	8	4.11%
Sep 18, 2026	881	38	1	2	4	4.65%
Sep 17, 2026	776	24	0	0	1	3.09%
Sep 16, 2026	1,195	24	0	1	11	2.09%
Aug 15, 2023	8,100,000	565,600	2,329	14,900	135,952	7.20%
Aug 14, 2023	5,100,000	280,900	558	5,896	74,200	5.63%
Feb 21, 2023	2,800,000	348,500	1,869	14,500	43,212	13.03%