@buildthepositivityJef DeWitt

Sober 8+ years Relationships Growth Positivity IG @buildthepositivity

card updated Oct 6, 2026 · 13 clips parsed · following 94 · 186,500 likes total

Engagement13.83%above average

Account summary

@buildthepositivity has 11,900 followers and 438 videos. Across the 13 parsed clips the average is 64,504 views and 7,560 likes. Engagement to views is 13.83%, which is above average for TikTok. On the newer half of the feed the response is falling (−1.36 pp). Posts roughly 0.1 times a week. An average clip reaches 542% of the follower count.

Followers

11.9K

+0 in period

Engagement

13.83%

−1.36 pp newer half

Average views

64.5K

median 1.1K

Likes per clip

7.6K

113 comments avg

Shares / saves

1.2K / 2.2K

3.48% of viewers save

Posting rate

0.1 / wk

reach 542% of followers

Latest clips

13 collected

Most of relationships are a two-way street. Not repair work. Hurt need — @buildthepositivity

2.5K0:41Most of relationships are a two-way street. Not repair work. Hurt needs to be seen to be healed. And if two people are 22233797

Keep your word. #relationships #love #couples #dating #marriage — @buildthepositivity

1.1K0:08Keep your word. #relationships #love #couples #dating #marriage1224215

What’s worse than hurt feelings? Having that hurt ignored and feeling — @buildthepositivity

1.1K0:59What’s worse than hurt feelings? Having that hurt ignored and feeling unimportant. There’s a better way, but defense me922738

With my whole chest, I believe that learning how to treat others well — @buildthepositivity

9170:56With my whole chest, I believe that learning how to treat others well is the core of love. Romantic or otherwise. #rela69524

@buildthepositivity — TikTok clip, Feb 17

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Tough conversations are an often missed bid for connection ❤️‍🩹 #relat — @buildthepositivity

31.7K0:59Tough conversations are an often missed bid for connection ❤️‍🩹 #relationships #love #couples #dating #relationship #mar3.5K266151.3K

@buildthepositivity — TikTok clip, Feb 10

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@buildthepositivity — TikTok clip, Feb 5

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I back and see how I contorted my beliefs and abandoned my values. I w — @buildthepositivity

4150:59I back and see how I contorted my beliefs and abandoned my values. I was afraid of vulnerability. So, I pretended to be 19402

You know me, just using normal, modern language like “flabbergasting” — @buildthepositivity

7870:59You know me, just using normal, modern language like “flabbergasting” 😅. #relationships #love #couples #dating #relatio65267

Credit to the Gottman’s and Abram’s work in A Man’s Guide To Women 🙏 — @buildthepositivity

311.8K0:42Credit to the Gottman’s and Abram’s work in A Man’s Guide To Women 🙏33.9K7309.4K10.1K

Getting triggered is a form of time travel. The current moment is repl — @buildthepositivity

36.1K0:51Getting triggered is a form of time travel. The current moment is replaced with what you went through at the time you we2.4K40328790

Defensiveness often communicates more than we realize. #communication — @buildthepositivity

450.2K0:36Defensiveness often communicates more than we realize. #communication #emotionalintelligence #communicationskills #datin57.7K6475.8K16.7K

Engagement per clip

13 parsed clips · newest on the right · click a bar to open the clip peak: 14.2% ER

Sep 28Feb 10Mar 24

Date	Views	Likes	Comments	Shares	Saves	ER
Mar 24, 2026	2,550	222	3	37	97	10.27%
Mar 16, 2026	1,122	122	4	2	15	11.41%
Mar 9, 2026	1,078	92	2	7	38	9.37%
Mar 2, 2026	917	69	5	2	4	8.29%
Feb 17, 2026	536	53	0	1	16	10.07%
Feb 12, 2026	31,700	3,487	26	615	1,349	13.02%
Feb 10, 2026	607	73	2	2	9	12.69%
Feb 5, 2026	738	80	5	2	15	11.79%
Feb 2, 2026	415	19	4	0	2	5.54%
Jan 31, 2026	787	65	2	6	7	9.28%
Sep 7, 2024	311,800	33,900	730	9,428	10,124	14.13%
Feb 28, 2023	36,100	2,403	40	328	790	7.68%
Sep 28, 2022	450,200	57,700	647	5,779	16,719	14.24%